Online Flirting

One of the most common ways to strike up a relationship, or even a conversation, in the online dating world is by online flirting. Just about every online dating service offers some form of online flirting, whether it be a “wink“, a “smile“ or a blatant “flirt“.

Of course, there’s also the option of using your personality to flirt in standard communications. A lot of online daters take very well to natural online flirting, so we’ll talk more about this below. But first, we’ll cover the simple “Click’n’Send“ flirts that all dating services provide.

Online Flirting Before the First Email

Many times, when an online dater browses the millions of profiles, then writes an opening email, they don’t even end up getting a response. More often than not, it isn’t because the receiver is being rude, but because they get emails so often that they didn’t find this one interesting enough to respond to. By starting out with an online flirt, then sending that introductory email, statistics show they have a much higher chance of getting a response.

Online Flirting to get Someone’s Attention

It is also a proven fact that online flirting alone can get a response, without having to send any email at all. Sending only an online flirt can make a person appear more shy, which often appeals to profiles who are looking for the “shy type“. However, if you don’t get a response within 24 hours of the initial online flirt, you probably won’t get one. Either write a first email, or move on to the next attractive profile.

Online Flirting to Accentuate Relationships

If you send a first online dating message and get a positive response, this can be a great time to send an online flirt. Let them know you appreciate their response and are open to further communication by sending an online flirt, followed by an answer to their last response.

Online Flirting Too Much!

Be careful not to use these simple online flirting tactics too often. Some online dating services will offer a list of online flirting options, such as a “wink“, a “smile“, an “I like your profile“, “I like your photo“, and so on. One of the most annoying things a person can get is every single type of flirt, one after another, without a single, real communication before or after. If you do this, don’t expect a response.

Online Flirting without using “Flirts“

There’s another form of online flirting that has nothing to do with those instant “Click’n’Send“ flirt options, and that is the ability to flirt through regular communications. Your natural personality can be the best form of flirting there is, and can get a much better response when it comes to forming a relationship.

The keys to online flirting through standard communication are to be humorous, mysterious, complimentary, observant and consistent.

A good sense of humor is always appreciated. Keeping a bit of mystery about yourself keeps others coming back for more, so don’t be too revealing and certainly don’t tell your whole life story in the first few messages. Compliments are generally appreciated, so long as they are genuine, but don’t over-do it.

Observance skills are very important because people will assume you’ve read their profile. Make sure that comes across in your communications; that you read and remember the info they offered up in their profile. Ask about their interests, mention shared interests, etc. Consistency is also important in relation to observance. When you ask about their interests, and get a response, follow up on the question. If they like hiking, and you ask where they like to go hiking, tell them if you’ve ever been there, and if so, what it was like. If not, ask them about it, or tell them where you like to go.

Following these online flirting tips can get you a lot better response rate, and a much higher potential for finding a successful relationship in the online dating world.